How Hitting Rock Bottom Will Make You Stronger

 

How Hitting Rock Bottom Will Make You Stronger

 

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Life Area: Personal  
Topic: Perseverance in hard times


How Hitting Rock Bottom Will Make You Stronger

As you may have read in my blog post about my personal perfect storm, after a consistent rise to the pinnacle of success, the bottom fell out 8 years ago when my daughter was diagnosed with thyroid cancer (she scans clean now), the financial markets meltdown hit my real estate development business hard, and I had a humongous love loss. A triple whammy. Maybe you’ve experienced similar, or God forbid, worse circumstances. Maybe your business has failed or you lost your job or maybe a relative or spouse died. For whatever reason, you found yourself in a place you never imagined–rock bottom, like me.

Well, let me remind you: when you face situations like that remember failure is not fatal and rock bottom is not forever, unless you make it so. There are very important lessons to learn when you’ve hit rock bottom. Here are some of the most important ones:

1. Your True Self shows up. When you’re down and out, you’re forced to confront yourself as you probably never have before. It’s when you’re at your most broken and weak that you can dig down through your vulnerabilities to the strength to stand strong. It is in loss and imperfection that you can see how perfectly human you are.

2. Choose stumbling blocks or stepping stones. Hitting rock bottom is a powerful reminder not to carry your mistakes around with you but to learn from them; use them as stepping stones, not stumbling blocks, on the way to your success.

3. What you thought you wanted may not be what you needed. Sometimes painful circumstances turn out to be the impetus of a new direction and months or years later you look back and see how they played an integral part in getting you where you ended up…a direction and destination you may not have chosen, but was much better than you envisioned.

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Talk with Tom: Episode #43 | TwT Motivational Minute: The Power of Self-Forgiveness

 

The Power of Self-Forgiveness

In this episode of my Talk with Tom Motivational Minute, I encourage you to forgive yourself. Self-forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do but is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. Why carry around negative emotions for weeks, months, or sometimes even years, because of some past decision, action or mistake? Hopefully you learned from your mistake and it’s now time to forgive and let it go.


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Nothing Will Work Unless You Do – An Inside Look At My Early Mentor, Coach John Wooden

 

 

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Life Area: Personal  
Topic: Mentorship – Coach John Wooden


Nothing Will Work Unless You Do

 

For those of you who don’t know how I came to be mentored by Coach John Wooden, I offer up the short version: As a basketball player growing up in the LA suburb of Burbank during the UCLA Wooden coaching era I had the opportunity to attend the Wooden Basketball Camp held in nearby Thousand Oaks. Not only was I privileged to attend once but for many sessions in the summers in my junior high and high school years. It is there that he and I forged a friendship. I would see him on occasion at different LA spots and darned if he didn’t remember my name each time…that show off. Later as a downtown LA real estate executive, I was reacquainted with Coach when he was honored by the Jonathan Club. It was there that I met his granddaughter and grandson-in-law, Craig Impleman, of my same age (pictured above with Coach and a younger-me).  Craig and I hit it off and would go on to host a basketball camp together bringing in Coach on Wednesday of the week long camp. I would visit Coach at his townhouse in Encino and we’d spend time together, talking life and me absorbing every morsel of Wooden Wisdom and his Pyramid of Success. This was a common occurrence at Coach’s townhome and his favorite Ventura Boulevard restaurant booth with the likes of former players and NBA stars including Kareem Abdul-Jabbar and Bill Walton, and many many others. Coach was a mentor extraordinaire to so many. Why so? Well, as Coach put it to me, “Because you asked.” Here’s an inside look at the man voted by past and present living collegiate coaches as the greatest college coach of all times (of all sports) as told by Craig:

 

The Early Years

When Coach John Wooden coined his definition of success in 1934, he was a high school English teacher (“Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to do the best of which you are capable”), his philosophy was clear: He had defined the goal for which he wanted his students to strive.

 

When Coach began building his Pyramid of Success, he chose “Industriousness” as one of the cornerstones. Although many other blocks were moved and redefined in the next 14 years while he developed the Pyramid, industriousness was never moved nor did its definition change: “There is no substitute for work. Worthwhile results come from hard work and careful planning.”

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“There is no substitute for work. Worthwhile results come from hard work and careful planning.”

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Industriousness has two parts: planning and work. Here I’ll focus on work. Coach Wooden understood the value of hard work growing up on a farm in Indiana. He rose early every morning before going to school to help milk the cows and do other required chores. When he arrived home from school, there were always more chores to do as well as completing his homework. His father always required that the farm work and school work were completed before any other activities.

 

“Nothing Will Work Unless You Do.” – Coach John Wooden

“Nothing will work unless you do,” Coach often remarked later—it was a mantra by which he lived his life. The summer before his senior year of high school, Wooden hitchhiked to Kansas to work in the wheat fields, but when he arrived in Lawrence, he learned that the crop was not ready for harvest. With no harvesting job available, Coach got a job pouring concrete for the University’s new football stadium instead. He slept on the floor of the campus gymnasium.

While attending Purdue University and earning All-American honors three times for basketball, Coach also found time to publish and sell the official Purdue program. During football season, he worked in the training room helping tape ankles and painting the football stadium for 35 cents an hour.

 

During his first season as head basketball coach at UCLA, Coach Wooden worked from 6 a.m. to noon as a truck dispatcher for a local dairy company. Upon arriving on campus with his morning job completed, his first duty was to mop the gym floor so it would be ready for practice in the afternoon.

 

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Talk with Tom: Episode #42 | TwT Motivational Minute: Sometimes You Have To Change Things

 

In this Talk with Tom Motivational Minute, Tom reminds us there are often things in our life that just aren’t working and that when we recognize that we sometimes have to take uncomfortable actions to change things for the better.


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Happy Birthday To My Son, INDY!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is the motto he lives by.

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Four Email Templates To Help Start Ups Raise Capital

 

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Life Area: Professional  
Topic: Raising Start Up Capital


Four Email Templates To Help Start Ups Raise Capital

 

Email is still one of the most effective tools for startup fundraising. The question most of my business coaching clients ask center around what and how much to email prospective investors. According to Forbes the series of email templates below make it super easy to leverage email to raise seed money.

 

The Power of Email

Having started numerous businesses, receiving pitches as an investor, and consulting founders on fundraising, I can tell you that email still works. In fact, it can be the most powerful and high ROI tool in your box.

One of my favorite shows continues to be Shark Tank and one of the show’s most prolific investors is billionaire Mark Cuban. What some people don’t know is that Cuban’s investment volume on the show is far exceeded by his Dallas-based investment machine, Mark Cuban Companies.

Consider that multiple entrepreneurs have raised millions of dollars from Mark Cuban alone by using emails like these. In January 2016 a high school dropout received a $3M investment from Cuban as a result of a cold email for his car insurance startup. Adam Lyons ended up closing his Series A round for $17M. He has raised over $21M to date, including investments from billionaire investor Mike Maples Jr. who was also involved in Twitter and Lyft.

In 2015, two engineers cold emailed Cuban and received over $500,000 for their brand new 3D printing startup. Founders Tim Ellis and Jordan Noone went on to raise over $8.4M as a result of that.

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Email is still a favored medium for communicating by savvy and busy angel investors and venture capital executives.

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Email is still a favored medium for communicating by savvy and busy angel investors and venture capital executives, simply because they favor the short form and relative insistence that you get to the point or they bounce. Whether you are just formulating plans for beginning a new venture or are strategizing a new series of funding, these email templates that I found in the book, The Art of Startup Fundraising, can help remove the guesswork and speed you along to the next milestone.

 

Email Template 1

This is the first email startup entrepreneurs should send. It can work both for following up with investor contacts they have been introduced to, as well as for pitching potential investors they haven’t met yet. Note that founders should have spent time building an investor list well in advance of their funding needs. This email is specifically designed to work after you have secured a lead investor, though may be tweaked for earlier stages as well.

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Email Template 2

Email 2 is designed to be sent as a follow up to email 1. Two to three weeks is a good time period to wait in between first and second messages. This is essential to keep up momentum with investors you have already spoken to or have communicated back and forth with based on your initial email. It’s also a great way to reach out again in case the first message was missed, and to stay on the radar of potential investors for further rounds, even if they fail to participate in this one.

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Talk with Tom: Episode #41 | TwT Motivational Minute: Daily Success Habits

 

I am always exploring success habits of others to learn from. Over the past few years, Tim Ferris interviewed nearly 200 world-class performers to discover their daily success habits and compiled his findings into Tools of Titans. Three habits stood out that most all of them practiced. In this episode of my Talk with Tom Motivational Minute, I detail each of the three.


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Four Tactics To Help You Be Super Focused

 

 

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Life Area: Personal  
Topic: Mental Focus


Four Tactics To Help You Be Super Focused

 

You ever find yourself needing to be super focused to prepare for that special presentation or meet a crucial deadline? Well, if you’re like me that need surfaces often. I’ve written here before about Cal Newport’s book Deep Work, wherein he gives us beaucoup advice on achieving deep, focused work. Here are four tactics I use that may resonate with you in order to give them a try:

 

1. Use Time Blocking

At the beginning of each week, on either Sunday night or Monday morning, I plan out my week ahead using my Ideal Week Template as my guide (see offer below to download it FREE). I look at meetings and projects that must be completed and I estimate the number of hours I will need for each (if you find yourself underestimating completion time, double whatever you estimate when first doing this routine). Then I look at the week ahead (which already has time blocks for my regular occurring things like my power hours, meditation, and workouts) and I block out first committed appointments and meetings, and then these projects. Treat these focused project times just as you would a meeting with a board member or investor…you’re gonna make it happen!!

 

2. Eliminate Distractions

Isolate yourself in a quiet place or work from home to avoid those inevitable office distractions. Dress comfortably, make the room a comfortable temperate (69-72o), eat some healthy food free of white flour, caffeine, and sugar so your blood sugar is balanced, and put on some low volume, low key music (personally, I turn on the Spa Radio channel on Pandora).

 

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At the beginning of each week, on either Sunday night or Monday morning, I plan out my week ahead.

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3. Set Mini Goals

As you’ve heard me mention here before, it’s best to take a big project and chunk it down to bite size tasks by reverse engineering the many steps to its completion. By that I mean break it down into smaller goals that are tasks that I can finish in, say, three hours. If you’re like me, you’ll get a rush just from checking the box of each smaller task!

 

4. Set a Timer and Take Breaks

We often get in the zone and reach burnout sooner than we could if we otherwise predetermine break times. The Pomodoro Method advocates 50 minute work spans followed by 10 minute breaks each hour. But each of us is unique and as self-aware individuals that make up my audience, I’m guessing you know your bodies and attention spans and can determine whether a 60 minute work span or a 90 minute work span works best for you before either a 10 minute or 15 minute break, etc.

 

The moral of this story is that mental focus takes intentional action. Try these tactics and see if they give you greater results.

 

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Download this FREE Resource, the Ideal Week template in either Excel or PDF formats to help you with your time blocking. Click here for an Ideal Week Sample to use as a guide.

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Talk with Tom: Episode #40 | TwT Motivational Minute: Identifying Your Life’s Purpose

 

Once a year I hold a success retreat entitled Create The LIFE You Want. One of the first exercises I facilitate for the group is on finding one’s Life Purpose. Identifying, acknowledging, and honoring one’s life purpose is perhaps the most important action successful people take. They take the time to understand what they’re here to do – and then they pursue that with passion and enthusiasm. In today’s episode of my Talk with Tom Motivation Minute I give you that exercise in short form.


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Why You Need to Manage Your Energy Not Your Time

 

Why You Need to Manage Your Energy Not Your Time

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Life Area: Physical and Personal 
Topic: Energy Management


Why You Need to Manage Your Energy Not Your Time

 

Every day we feel the pull from every direction. Your home life demands your time. Your work life demands your time. And when do you get that so needed “me” time? Managing time can feel like the right solution. But if you’re mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually exhausted, more time won’t help.

So how can we become more productive without risking both our mental and physical health?  We manage our energy of mind, emotions, body and spirit: our mind energy, our emotional energy, our physical energy, and our spiritual energy. CEO of the organizational performance consultancy group The Energy Project, Tony Schwartz, author of The Way We’re Working Isn’t Working and co-author of the book The Power of Full Engagement, puts it this way in his Harvard Business Review article entitled “Manage Your Energy, Not Your Time”: focus on how you cultivate more energy, instead of obsessing over your time.

 

Mental Energy – Our Mind

Reduce interruptions during your day by only checking emails at designated times. Here’s the key. Make sure your team knows those times. If everyone knows that they won’t hear from you until 1pm, you’ve created a buffer for deep work. The more long stretches of deep work, the more you’ll be able to get into flow, and create higher quality work. I’m sure you have read the book Deep Work by Cal Newport, and if not, order it here from Amazon and you will find it a valuable read.

 

Emotional Energy – Our Emotions

Meditate. Start with an awareness of your breath. When you breathe in make sure your belly expands. Not the other way around.

If you have trouble clearing your mind, make sure you at least have a mantra, an affirmation. When I began meditating I would simply say “One” on the inhale and “Two” on the exhale.

One of the most valuable things I’ve ever done for myself and my career was to start meditating every day. The mental, emotional, health, AND SUCCESS benefits of daily meditation are truly amazing. Traditional meditation can take a long time to master (and even longer to start enjoying the benefits). But now you can start to reap all the incredible benefits of meditation from the very first day, in only 10 minutes!

Check out my FREE 7-Day Guided Mindfulness Meditation Audio Series where I will personally guide you through seven 10 minute meditations. You can access them anytime, from anywhere, from any device, right from that page OR you may download them and listen to each of the seven sessions any time you want.

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One of the most valuable things I’ve ever done for myself and my career was to start meditating every day.

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Talk with Tom: Episode #39 | TwT Motivational Minute: Focus and Task Management

 

In this episode of the Talk with Tom Motivational Minute, Tom gives us ideas from his own experience and tools that help him focus and manage his goals and prioritize his tasks.


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