Monthly Archives: April 2020

Talk with Tom: Episode #75 | Should I Hire A Coach in the Middle of Covid?

 

Many are asking if they should hire a coach during these current pandemic times.

When life is challenging, business or personal life, that is probably the best time to have a coach. Getting that outside perspective to your challenges is a key resource in success.

In this episode, Tom Hart gives you sound reasoning for having a business and life coach in your life right now.

You can contact Tom for a Right Fit call today to determine if Tom is the right fit for you.


Every month Tom shares topic after topic to Grow Your Life and Build Your Business. If you’re not already a subscriber, join us. Talk with Tom is 100% free, and there are special benefits available only to our subscribers, so be sure you subscribe yourself on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and we look forward to seeing you right back here on the last Wednesday of every month with Talk with Tom.

Spanx Founder Tells Us What Stops Our Success

 

 

#GrowYourLife  #BuildYourBusiness

Life Area: Personal  
Topic: Negative Self-Talk


Spanx Founder Tells Us the No. 1 Reason Stopping Our Success

 

Sara Blakely is known for her revolutionary shapewear product “Spanx” released in 1998. Since then, Spanx has solved the wardrobe woes of women around the world by designing bras, underwear, leggings, and other intimate apparel in a way that has changed the way women feel about their bodies. In the process, Sara became a self-made billionaire.

Sara Blakely’s success lesson.

 

In a recent interview, the wildly-successful Blakely admitted that she still struggles with doubt and fear. She told her interviewer the one thing she felt was holding back thousands of us from realizing our full potential was our negative self-talk.

 


Our negative self-talk is the No.1 barrier to success.”

– Spanx founder, Sara Blakely


 

Who can’t relate to that? We all have, at one time or another, been held back by the lies we allow to infiltrate our own heads: you’re not good enough, rich enough, talented enough, pretty enough, so on and so forth.

 

Jack Canfield provides us with this illustrative of the Self-talk Loop. Read more up on it in one of my past blog posts: 5 Ways of Turning Your Negative Self-Talk into Positive Self-Talk [here].

self-talk loop

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I admire Blakely’s authenticity and the wisdom she imparted. She states she has been able to manage her negative self-talk over the years by continuing to do the emotional work most people neglect to overcome their own doubts and fears.

 

Negative self-talk is a very real thing–and a very self-limiting thing holding people back. In a 2005 National Science Foundation study, researchers found that the average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. The alarming part? Eighty percent of those thoughts are negative and fear-based!

 

If you’re struggling with your own demoralizing inner critic, here are three crucial things to help you manage the negative self-talk and overcome your fears.

 

1. Gain perspective into your situation.

Often, due to failure and rejection, people develop a warped sense of reality where they can’t separate fact from fantasy. When making the entrepreneurial journey or climbing the corporate ladder, failure is a sure thing–you can bank on it.

 

But when you step back and gain perspective into your situation, you can realize that life will go on and you’re not going to die a horrible death if you get rejected or miss out on an opportunity.

 

The worst-case-scenario that feeds into our fear or the negative drama we play out in our heads is merely that … drama. Lose the script, put the past in the past, and detach any previous negative outcome from your current reality. Once you start with a clean slate and see possibilities again with renewed insight, you’ll realize that your negative self-talk no longer has any power over you.

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Talk with Tom: Episode #74 | TwT Motivational Minute: Assertiveness For Success

 

Assertiveness is important to your success. It is not bullying, or aggressive behavior, as is often thought. It reflects a stable inner life, which supports successful actions and thoughts. Learn more about positive, assertive behavior from Tom in this podcast.


Every month Tom shares topic after topic to Grow Your Life and Build Your Business. If you’re not already a subscriber, join us. Talk with Tom is 100% free, and there are special benefits available only to our subscribers, so be sure you subscribe yourself on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and we look forward to seeing you right back here on the last Wednesday of every month with Talk with Tom.

Talk with Tom: Episode #73 | TwT Motivational Minute: Potential For Success

 

What inner mental images might be holding you back from success? Everyone has the potential for success, yet not everyone is successful. Learn from Tom in this podcast episode what contributes to real-world successes in life.


Every month Tom shares topic after topic to Grow Your Life and Build Your Business. If you’re not already a subscriber, join us. Talk with Tom is 100% free, and there are special benefits available only to our subscribers, so be sure you subscribe yourself on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and we look forward to seeing you right back here on the last Wednesday of every month with Talk with Tom.