Monthly Archives: September 2018

Three Personal Development Habits All Successful People Practice

 

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Life Area: Personal  
Topic: Success Habits


Three Personal Development Habits All Successful People Practice

When you research the daily habits of successful people, you’ll find a range of daily habits, for example, from rising early to hit the gym to having a meditative start to your day and waiting to workout until the evening. There are a variety of formulas and preferences out there, so keep in mind that your job is to find the daily habits that work for you, your goals, your body and your life.

 

However, there are three habits I have come across that stand out and that I practice and know the results of first-hand. I will add these to my list of six that Brendon Burchard learned after his three-years of research for his recent book High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way which I wrote about in my blog post, The Role Luck Plays In Our Success.

 

1. Successful people spend time in introspection and self-discovery.

Successful people are self-aware on multiple levels. We know our physical selves: our bodies, our energy patterns, how much sleep is optimal, and so on. We have taken the time to learn what the best fuel is to eat, what exercise is best for us to do, and what physical environments are best for us to have at home and office to be most creative and productive, and we know the difference between those two states.

 

We know ourselves mentally: successful people know their priorities in life and know that all their decisions must start with an assessment of how that decision will serve our vision, mission and purpose.

 

We know ourselves spiritually: successful people seek enlightenment, they acknowledge a higher-power of some form, recognizing that all things are created and that everything we know of in our physical world was spawned from an idea and spoken into being whether by man or the creator of the universe. And, we try to stay spiritually centered whether through mediation, prayer or religious practices.

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Talk with Tom: Episode #44 | The 3 Most Important Questions

 

In this episode of Talk with Tom, we learn about the three most important questions to ask ourselves. Tom gives us an alternative technique to goal setting as advocated by Mindvalley.com founder Vishen Lakhiani and Tom guides you through the exercise right here on the podcast. This new goal setting alternative may change the way you think about goal setting. The intro to the exercise takes no more than 5 minutes, and the exercise itself takes 9 minutes. So download the FREE PDF for the exercise [here] or below or simply grab your pen and a piece of paper or your journal and be prepared for some active listening. Who knows, this 20 minutes could change your life.

 

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How Hitting Rock Bottom Will Make You Stronger

 

How Hitting Rock Bottom Will Make You Stronger

 

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Life Area: Personal  
Topic: Perseverance in hard times


How Hitting Rock Bottom Will Make You Stronger

As you may have read in my blog post about my personal perfect storm, after a consistent rise to the pinnacle of success, the bottom fell out 8 years ago when my daughter was diagnosed with thyroid cancer (she scans clean now), the financial markets meltdown hit my real estate development business hard, and I had a humongous love loss. A triple whammy. Maybe you’ve experienced similar, or God forbid, worse circumstances. Maybe your business has failed or you lost your job or maybe a relative or spouse died. For whatever reason, you found yourself in a place you never imagined–rock bottom, like me.

Well, let me remind you: when you face situations like that remember failure is not fatal and rock bottom is not forever, unless you make it so. There are very important lessons to learn when you’ve hit rock bottom. Here are some of the most important ones:

1. Your True Self shows up. When you’re down and out, you’re forced to confront yourself as you probably never have before. It’s when you’re at your most broken and weak that you can dig down through your vulnerabilities to the strength to stand strong. It is in loss and imperfection that you can see how perfectly human you are.

2. Choose stumbling blocks or stepping stones. Hitting rock bottom is a powerful reminder not to carry your mistakes around with you but to learn from them; use them as stepping stones, not stumbling blocks, on the way to your success.

3. What you thought you wanted may not be what you needed. Sometimes painful circumstances turn out to be the impetus of a new direction and months or years later you look back and see how they played an integral part in getting you where you ended up…a direction and destination you may not have chosen, but was much better than you envisioned.

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Success Series Affirmations

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Talk with Tom: Episode #43 | TwT Motivational Minute: The Power of Self-Forgiveness

 

The Power of Self-Forgiveness

In this episode of my Talk with Tom Motivational Minute, I encourage you to forgive yourself. Self-forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do but is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. Why carry around negative emotions for weeks, months, or sometimes even years, because of some past decision, action or mistake? Hopefully you learned from your mistake and it’s now time to forgive and let it go.


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Nothing Will Work Unless You Do – An Inside Look At My Early Mentor, Coach John Wooden

 

 

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Life Area: Personal  
Topic: Mentorship – Coach John Wooden


Nothing Will Work Unless You Do

 

For those of you who don’t know how I came to be mentored by Coach John Wooden, I offer up the short version: As a basketball player growing up in the LA suburb of Burbank during the UCLA Wooden coaching era I had the opportunity to attend the Wooden Basketball Camp held in nearby Thousand Oaks. Not only was I privileged to attend once but for many sessions in the summers in my junior high and high school years. It is there that he and I forged a friendship. I would see him on occasion at different LA spots and darned if he didn’t remember my name each time…that show off. Later as a downtown LA real estate executive, I was reacquainted with Coach when he was honored by the Jonathan Club. It was there that I met his granddaughter and grandson-in-law, Craig Impleman, of my same age (pictured above with Coach and a younger-me).  Craig and I hit it off and would go on to host a basketball camp together bringing in Coach on Wednesday of the week long camp. I would visit Coach at his townhouse in Encino and we’d spend time together, talking life and me absorbing every morsel of Wooden Wisdom and his Pyramid of Success. This was a common occurrence at Coach’s townhome and his favorite Ventura Boulevard restaurant booth with the likes of former players and NBA stars including Kareem Abdul-Jabbar and Bill Walton, and many many others. Coach was a mentor extraordinaire to so many. Why so? Well, as Coach put it to me, “Because you asked.” Here’s an inside look at the man voted by past and present living collegiate coaches as the greatest college coach of all times (of all sports) as told by Craig:

 

The Early Years

When Coach John Wooden coined his definition of success in 1934, he was a high school English teacher (“Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to do the best of which you are capable”), his philosophy was clear: He had defined the goal for which he wanted his students to strive.

 

When Coach began building his Pyramid of Success, he chose “Industriousness” as one of the cornerstones. Although many other blocks were moved and redefined in the next 14 years while he developed the Pyramid, industriousness was never moved nor did its definition change: “There is no substitute for work. Worthwhile results come from hard work and careful planning.”

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“There is no substitute for work. Worthwhile results come from hard work and careful planning.”

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Industriousness has two parts: planning and work. Here I’ll focus on work. Coach Wooden understood the value of hard work growing up on a farm in Indiana. He rose early every morning before going to school to help milk the cows and do other required chores. When he arrived home from school, there were always more chores to do as well as completing his homework. His father always required that the farm work and school work were completed before any other activities.

 

“Nothing Will Work Unless You Do.” – Coach John Wooden

“Nothing will work unless you do,” Coach often remarked later—it was a mantra by which he lived his life. The summer before his senior year of high school, Wooden hitchhiked to Kansas to work in the wheat fields, but when he arrived in Lawrence, he learned that the crop was not ready for harvest. With no harvesting job available, Coach got a job pouring concrete for the University’s new football stadium instead. He slept on the floor of the campus gymnasium.

While attending Purdue University and earning All-American honors three times for basketball, Coach also found time to publish and sell the official Purdue program. During football season, he worked in the training room helping tape ankles and painting the football stadium for 35 cents an hour.

 

During his first season as head basketball coach at UCLA, Coach Wooden worked from 6 a.m. to noon as a truck dispatcher for a local dairy company. Upon arriving on campus with his morning job completed, his first duty was to mop the gym floor so it would be ready for practice in the afternoon.

 

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